Whenever I open up to others about dealing with mental disorders, I always say, “Yeah, I know, I’m completely crazy.”
And I deal with a lot — bipolar II, PTSD, ADHD, and generalized anxiety. I’m “totally crazy,” I say.
I call my medication “crazy pills.” Whenever I have a day where my symptoms were kicking my butt, I say, “My crazy is off the charts today.” Whenever I’m having a hypomanic episode, and people start to notice my fast-talking and restlessness, I say, “Nevermind me, I’m just crazy!”
I use the word “crazy” almost every time I bring up my…
I once saw a meme featuring the Grinch from How the Grinch Stole Christmas. It read, “Maybe the Grinch would be nicer if every five minutes a dude wasn’t singing songs about what a piece of sh*t he is.”
In the cartoon, there is a voice that sings,
“You’re a mean one, Mr. Grinch
You really are a heel,
You’re as cuddly as a cactus, you’re as charming as an eel, Mr. Grinch,
You’re a bad banana with a greasy black peel!”
— Theodor “Dr. Seuss” Geisel, “You’re a Mean One, Mr. Grinch”
The voice continues to sing lyrics that…
“Racism is real,” a person of color says.
“Provide sources to prove your point,” a random white person demands.
The person of color has two choices — they can ignore the demand (which might be the best choice), or they can try to provide studies and research. Most likely, the white person will dismiss it all as “biased” or “flawed.”
In cases where the person of color is speaking about a personal experience, solid proof might not be available. The white person can then accuse them of lying and/or use gaslighting tactics.
I’ve participated in enough Internet arguments about racism…
My teenage half-brother, who is white, got his station ready. Vent brush? Check. Fine-tooth comb? Check. Water bottle spray? Check. A bottle of Luster’s Pink Moisturizer Hair Lotion? Check.
He then went to work on my hair, with a tender-headed 9-year-old me crying as he tugged the tangles and with the brush and comb. The entire time, he complained about my crying and how “messy” my hair was.
Although he was insensitive to my cries, I have to give my brother some credit. He bravely tried to groom my hair, only having a vague idea how to do so. However…
A couple of people I follow on Facebook shared a quote that said the following:
“Idk who needs to hear this, but you’re not overwhelmed. You are lazy and unorganized.
“Wake up early
“Get an agenda book
“Create a routine
“Create boundaries (say no)
“Stick to your schedule
“Write down AND adhere to your deadlines
“You are standing in your own way.”
Reading this on my Facebook timeline didn’t inspire my ADHD mind to get more organized and stick to a schedule.
However, it did inspire flashbacks to all the shaming I experienced before I was diagnosed and able to…
“Whites only within city limits after dark.”
“Don’t let the sun set on you here, understand?”
“N*****, God help you if the sun ever sets on you here!”
Starting from the end of the U.S. Civil War, it was common to see racist signs containing these words outside of towns. As newly-freed Black slaves traveled north, northern states had to find a way to enforce their white supremacy.
Such towns were called “sundown towns,” though suburbs, counties, and even entire states enforced the same sort of segregation. Residents of sundown towns kept their communities all-white on purpose, threatening anyone who…
“Getting rid of negative people can be so refreshing.”
“We don’t appreciate negative vibes around here. Move along.”
“‘I love my negative life,’ said no one ever.”
I often see quotes like the ones above floating around social media. There are also a million articles telling people to dump anyone who is “negative” and “toxic” from their lives.
As someone struggling with bipolar disorder and PTSD, it’s extremely hard for me not to take it all personally.
I’ve been labeled “negative” and “toxic” because I can be depressed and irritable at times. I’m aware that my mood swings turn people…
I was seven years old the first time white supremacists tried to run me over with a vehicle.
My mother and I were crossing a street when a white van ran through a stop sign, heading towards us. My mother picked me up and ran across the street, barely missing the van. As the van sped past, the passenger, who was a white man, shouted out the n-word. It was the very first time I remember ever hearing the word.
It’s important to note that my mother is white, so the word was clearly aimed at me, a child. There…
White supremacy is the idea that those with white skin are superior to all others, especially those with brown and black skin.
Whiteness is the establishment of white supremacy, declaring that the culture, customs, and beliefs of white people are the norm or the standard. Whiteness is considered to be neutral and objective when it’s anything but.
We are all subliminally taught that “white is right” through our education. This is why, within the U.S. government, Republicans want to stomp out the New York Times Magazine’s 1619 Project and critical race theory. Both aim to deconstruct whiteness and ultimately white…
“Don’t be mad. They don’t mean it.”
This is what a former white friend of mine told me when I took a chance to open up to her about the racism I experienced as I was growing up. We both grew up in the same area, only I had a very different perception of our white, rural hometown than she did.
I ended up sending her a message with some links trying to show how what she was was invalidating and derailing. …
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